Friday, August 1, 2014

What its like for a girl

Today as I was reviewing our summer photos for a later blog recap, I noticed something. I wasn't in many pictures. I actual counted how many solo pics there was of me and since January there has been five. Five?! This was shocking to me. As a scrapbooker I think we invented the use of "selfies" and I was no stranger to them. I took them and I did it often, but this year there was almost none of me. I thought of why this could be and then I realized, its my hair. 

You see, back in January I chopped my hair off. I felt like I needed a change and, to be completely honest, with a little one I was finding it very hard to find time to blow dry my hair. It was past my chest and because of prenatal vitamins it was the best it had ever looked, but I could not take care of it the way I wanted to. So, I decided to cut it. I scoured Pinterest for images of short hair and fell in loved with Ginnifer Goodwin's hair. I felt that we had the same face shape (round) so it would work. 
Well, I did it. 
I was devastated. 

I hated it. I cried and cried. I avoided going out and when I did I prayed that I would not see anyone that I knew. It was terrible. 

Why had I given my hair so much power. 

I suppose on an unconscious level I had identified my hair as being what made me attractive as a woman. I felt less sexy. I felt undesirable and I avoided the camera because of it. I was also taken back by the question, "what does your husband think of it" as if what he thought was what was most important. 

Isn't it funny how we define what beauty is. We unconsciously define it by what we think others will think of us. 

Someone that I have been following for a few years now Kara Haupt has launched a site for women she calls babes. It is so empowering and I love what she is doing. She is young and so vivacious. A true icon for the future generation. Check out her site Babe Vibes. I guarantee you will love her to pieces and boy can she rock some red lip stick!

1 comment:

  1. I don't know why we give our hair - or our looks, period! - so much power. I cut my own bangs when I was in university - I kept trying to make them even and ended up practically cutting them off, it was horrible. I wore hats/bandanas for months while they grew out, and I remember feeling so self conscious the entire time. I was the same girl on the inside, I just looked a little different on the outside - but it changed how I acted, how I felt about myself.

    I'll definitely check out Babe Vibes!